Week 11, Small group communication

So what is a small group,

Basically, a small group is a collection of individuals who are connected to one another by some common purpose.

They are interdependent, have some degree of organization among them,

and last but not least, they see themselves as a group.

Each of these characteristics needs to be explained a bit further.

First, they are collections of individuals.

Second, they have a common purpose.

Third, they are interdependence among each other.

Fourth, they have an organization of rules and

 fifth they have self-perception as a group.

 

 

 Small group contain four different format which is the round table, the panel, symposium, symposium forum.
Besides, different individual brings a different role and a passive role and active role into a group. Therefore, there are different category of power inherent in different individual which are
legitimate power, referent power, reward power, coercive power, expert power, information power.
Furthermore, there are various type of small group and different purposes.
When there are certain issues that would be hard to solve alone, small group will formed.
There are four types of small group which are idea-generation group, personal-growth, information-sharing group and problem-solving group.
 



Week 10, Friends, Lovers and Families.

In life, we will meet many people,

but out of this wide array we will develop relatively few relationship

that we would call friendships.

Friendship is an interpersonal relationship between two persons that is mutually productive and characterized by mutual positive regard.

The components of this definition is

• Friendship is an interpersonal relationship.  (Communication interactions must have taken place between the people.)
• Friendships must be mutually productive. ( They can not be destructive to either of the involved parties.)
• Friendships are characterized by mutual positive regard. ( You like your friend and your friend likes you.)

 There are also a few type of friendship which is,

• The friendship of reciprocity
• The friendship of receptivity
• The friendship of association

Friendships develop over time in stages. For example, at first you guys are strangers,

but after you two meet you guys became friends.

 

 

Beside that, we also learn romantic relationship.

Like friendships, romantic partnerships come in different styles as well.

For example, Eros love (Beauty and sexuality), Ludus love ( Entertainment and excitement), Storge love ( Peaceful and slow ), Pragma love ( Practical and traditional ), Mania love (Elation and depression.) and Agape love ( Compassionate and selfless ).

 

 

Family are central to contemporary life.

Family is important for us and each family has their own uniqueness and characteristic.

There are also a few types of family which is traditional couples, independent couples, separate couple.

 



Week 10, Blackout and Degree briefing

Due to the blackout at Tuesday

and the Degree briefing at Wednesday.

The class has been cancelled.

And the midterm will be postpone to the next Wednesday 18/3/2015.

 

Thank you xD

Week 9, Interpersonal Communication

Today, we continue our chapter of interpersonal communication.

We learn about the Relationship theories which is

•  Attraction theory
• Relationship rules theory
• Relationship dialectics theory
• Social penetration theory
• Social exchange theory
• Equity theory

First, in Attraction theory, there are 4 factor which is

 similarity, proximity, reinforcement and physical attractiveness and personality.

Next for the Relationship rule theory,

it is defined as different relationships that have difference relationship level and attribution.

It is the comprising of family rules, friendship rules, romantic rules and workplace rules.

Besides that, relationship dialectics theory is defined as

 the people in relationships often wants to explore the extreme of opposite qualities.

The three pairs of opposites are closeness and openness, autonomy and connection as well as novelty and predictability.

Furthermore, Social penetration theory is defined as

people in relationship often need to explore each other's personalities.

Deeper relationship would go deeper into the core personality of the person.

There are 3 stages which is

• With a normal friend
• With a best friend
• With lover

Last but not least, Social exchange theory is

rewards > cost and equity theory is rewards = cost.

There are also the bad side which is we call it the dark side of interpersonal relationship.

For instance, different type of jealous can occur which is cognitive jealousy, emotional jealousy and behavioral jealousy.

This is what we learned today in class.

Thank you. =)

Week 8-9, Interpersonal Communication

First of all, What is Interpersonal communication?

Interpersonal means communication between sender and receiver
For example, Ali is talking with Abu.
 There are 5 step in a conversation process

1. Opening - The first step to start a conversation. Exp: 'Hello!' 'Wassup man!'
2. Feed forward - The second step of conversation;
to open the channels of communication "nice day, isn't?" &
  preview future message "Hey, I have some good news to tell you..."
 3. Business - The third stage and the 'message' portion.
4.Feedback - The fourth stage and response stage.
"Thank you for telling me the bad news..."
5. Closing -The last stage; "Goodbye", "See ya!","Ciao!"

 There are three principle of conversation which is
Principle of turn-taking, Principle of dialogue and Principle of immediacy.
Principle of turning-taking is the exchange roles of between speakers and listeners.
Principle of dialogue is a context where two person share messages to one another and is indicates an interaction rather than just a conversation.
Principle of immediacy is the creation of closeness, a sense of togetherness, of oneness between speaker and listener.

There are also small talk, excuses, apologies, complimenting and advice in our daily conversation.
We also learn about the relationship stages and theories .
There are six stages which is contact, involvement, intimacy, deterioration, repair and dissolution

Contact is the first stage all stages, it is perceptual and interactional context take place.
For example, Hey, I'm John.
The second stage is involvement, where the people tighter bond and engagements with one another.
At this point, both testing and intensifying take place.
For example, Do want to go out with me?
The third stage is intimacy where people have a deep and committed relationship with one another.
Interpersonal commitment and social bonding will be take place and you will become comfort as well as familiar with each other such as when you having a relationship your lover.
The fourth stage is deterioration which means that other communication factor such as temporal, cultural or societal context weakness the bond with one another.
Repairing is the fifth stages which is trying to work things out with one another.
For example, talk with the people involve and discuss about the issues.
The sixth stage and the last stage of relationship where bonds are broken or returned back to a platonic. At this stage, interpersonal and social separation takes place.
For instance, you may not see each other anymore or may not return the messages that have been sent to him or her.
After that, Sir wanted us to do a role play and my team make the whole class gone wild!
haha
Thank you. =)


 

 

Week 6, Presentation about Verbal message and Non-Verbal message

Today, due to we did not attend the last Saturday replacement class,

We have to present today to get our attendant

So the class for today is basically talking about

Verbal message and Non-Verbal message.

Our group has been chosen using Verbal message effectively.

So, Verbal message can symbolize reality,

 express both facts and inference, be relatively static and obscure distinctions.

 Message can symbolize reality.
This means that the message are often used to represent the things, events, situation or even the people around us.
Message can also be expresses both facts and inference.
It define that message are always infused with our emotions, thoughts, and feelings.
This can be misleading at times to content of the message.
Furthermore, Message can be relatively static.
This means that message used are formed as part of our judgment and perception.
Message can also be obscure distinction.
Which means that it can be confusing and can over generalize context and surroundings, blurring distinction between people, objects and events.

Before that, there are groups that presented Non-Verbal message which is about different gesture in different country has different meaning.
For example, look at his diagram below,


Today class is basically this, thank you =)


Week 6, Verbal message

What is verbal message?

Verbal messages is the sharing of information between individual by using speech.

Individuals working within a business need to effectively use verbal communication that employs readily understood spoken words, as well as ensuring that the enunciation, stress and tone of voice with which the words are expressed is appropriate.

 

What is disconfirmation and confirmation?

Disconfirmation is a communication pattern in which we ignore someone's presence as well as that person's communications while confirmation is the opposite of disconfirmation.

Confirmation is we are not only acknowledge the presence of the other person but also indicate your acceptance of this person, of the person's self-definition, and of your relationship as defined or viewed by this other person.

 

In disconfirmation,

There are 4 practices which is racism, heterism, ageism and sexism.

 

Racism - is anything that make a race looks inferior to another race.  

Sexism - it is to practice or support favoritism that criticizes or having a bias towards a specific gender.

Heteroism - is the attitude, behaviors and language used to disparage gays and lesbian, language that presumes all people are heterosexual.

Ageism - is the discrimination based on age, usually signifies discrimination against the old and against aging.

 

This is what sir teaches us today and due to I did not came to his replacement class last Friday because of my church brother is getting married that day.

Sir wanted to me to form a group to present on the next class and our group has been chosen to present the next subtopic which is using Verbal Messages Effectively.

Thank you =)

Movie - The Miracle Worker

This movie is a story about Helen Keller and her teacher Anne Sullivan. Helen Keller's was born blind, deaf and mute. Helen Keller's parents had no idea how to teach their daughter to discipline because Helen Keller's was problem child. So they contact the Perkins Institute for the Blind which is in Boston. Anne Sullivan was sent to teach Helen Keller's.

 

When Anne Sullivan was young, she lose her sight and had no skills in reading or writing. But she enrolled in the Perkins and manage to learn manual alphabet from Laura Bridgman, a graduate of Perkins and the first blind and deaf person to be educated there. Also while there, she had her eye operation that help her improved her vision.

 

Anne Sullivan arrived there, she argued with her parents the way that they treat her daughter cannot help her and will only make her worst. It is hard to educated Helen because Helen use anger to express her feeling and emotion by smashing stuff. However she managed to quickly connected with Helen. By the patience of Anne, she managed to teach her some manual alphabet. But because of the way Helen parent treat her, it is hard for Anne to teach her. So she request to Keller's family that she wanted to stay with Helen alone in the garden house. The Keller's family agree but give her only two weeks period of time. Anne Sullivan had taught Helen a lot that two weeks of time.

 

After two weeks end, the Keller came to get Helen back due to they missed Helen so much. But Helen bad behavior came back soon because she know her parents were there for her. But Anne does not tolerate her. Anne pulls Helen into the yard and forces her to refill the pitcher at the pump because she want to remember what her teacher had taught her this two weeks. Suddenly, in the movie, miracle happens on Helen. She started to remember the time that she learned manual alphabet and know how to communicate with it.

 

As a result, Anne Sullivan had done a great job in educated Helen Keller and remained as her teacher for the rest of her life. Helen Killer graduated for Radcliffe college with a B.A (honor) and became a world famous advocate for social equality. She was awarded the presidential Medal of Freedom.  

 

Week 4, The self

Who are you?

There are 4 concept of self.

• Self-concept
• Self-awareness
• Self-esteem
• Self-disclosure

Self-concept, it is how you feel and think about yourself.

it is the image of yourself.

it is who you are, and it represents you.

There are 4 area that affect self-concept.

1. Social Comparison- Compare and adjust our image and thinking with the way society acts and thinks.
2. Other's images of you- Compare ourselves to those around us.
3. Self-interpretations and evaluation- standards that applied to your ethical and moral reasoning.
4. Cultural Teachings- Your culture instills in you and variety of beliefs, values, and attitude about such things as success. 

Next, Self-Awareness, it is the ability to discover yourself to know who you are.

  

The Johari Window, it is about yourself and your characteristic.

Work  

1. Open arena (Open self)- known to self and others. Most of the people around you know about you.
2. Hidden self- known to self but unknown to others.
3. Blind self-  unknown to you but known to others.
4. Unknown self- unknown to you and unknown to others. Information about yourself that neither you nor other know.

Growing in self awareness

1. Listen to others
2. Increase your open self
3. Seek information about yourself
4. Dialogue with yourself

Furthermore, Self-Esteem, means that confidence or the level of trust or assurance to yourself.

It is good for you but too high of self-esteem might be bad for you because you will feel disappointed to yourself when you did not achieve you goals.

 

There is 5 ways to increase your self-esteem.

1. Attack self-destructive belief
2. Seek out Nourishing people
3. Work on project that will result in success
4. Remind yourself of your success
5. Secure affirmation

Lastly, Self-Disclosure, telling things that people will not know about you, but do tell to much things about yourself to others. This may cause harm to yourself.

 

The advantages of self-disclosure

1. Gain confidence
2. Be more truthful about yourself
3. Make or strengthen friendship and relationships

The disadvantage of self-disclosure

1. Lost of friends and trust
2. Additional pressure and burden
3. Living with regret

This are the things we learn in the chapter 4 (The self)

Thank you. =)

 



Week 3, Listening

4nd day of lecture is about Chapter 3 - Listening.

 Listening is very important in our life,

it is a significant process in our life.

In the other hand,

What is hearing?

Is hearing the same as listening?

Many people things that listening and hearing are the same,

but actually both of them are different.

 Listening is a specialized process, a type of perception which you receive auditory signals.

For example, you learn through listening.

While hearing is a basic step of receiving sound.

For example, you are heard the bell rang.

Next, there are 5 stages of model in the process of listening.

Receiving > Understanding > Remembering > Evaluating > Responding

 

There is an interesting activity that sir gave us to test our remembrance,

He gave us two minutes to memorize 20 words 

and asked us bring a sheet paper to write it on

Eventually, no one get all correct

Some even add words that is not shown on the board

For example, SLEEP

And I'm one of the student who wrote SLEEP

Because the words that sir gave us make us related to the word SLEEP

 For example, there are words like Bed, Rest, Awake, Wake, Tired, Night

that confuse our mind and related to the word SLEEP.

 

Furthermore, We learn about there are 6 diversity of listening and culture which is:

1. Language and speech
2. Non-verbal behavioral differences
3. Direct and indirect styles
4. Balance of story versus evidence
5. Credibility
6. Feedback



Last but not least, we must listen effectively by:

1. Participatory and passive listening
2. Empathic and objective listening
3. Nonjudgmental and critical listening
4. Surface and depth listening

Sir : That's all for today! Thank you, class dismiss ~